Episode #73: How to Create a Code to Live By with Phil Horning

Written By Miles Salisbury

Episode Intro

In this conversation, Miles and Phil Horning explore the significance of living by a personal code, emphasizing the importance of values, presence, and vulnerability in building meaningful connections. They discuss the concept of containerization and how it can hinder emotional expression, as well as the necessity of healthy boundaries to protect one's sovereignty. The dialogue also delves into the journey of finding purpose and values, the role of discipline in creating rituals, and the importance of walking a path with vision for personal growth. In this conversation, Miles and Phil explore the themes of materialism, gratitude, community, vulnerability, and the importance of deepening connections in relationships. They discuss the challenges men face in expressing vulnerability and the need for authentic connections. The conversation also delves into the significance of service and responsibility in building community, as well as the transformative power of rituals in processing grief and deepening the soul.

Key Moments & Timestamps

00:00 - Living by a Personal Code

02:41 - The Importance of Contact and Presence

09:36 - Establishing Healthy Boundaries

16:07 - Sovereignty and Self-Leadership

28:01 - Courage from Integrity

30:38 - Establishing Personal Codes and Boundaries

33:04 - Discipline and Ritual in Daily Life

42:03 - Walking a Path with Vision

58:09 - Serving from Responsibility

01:06:13 - Deepening the Soul

01:08:10 - Exploring the Concept of Soul

01:11:07 - Navigating Grief and Darkness

01:13:25 - Finding Gifts in Grief

01:19:05 - Rituals of Grief and Transformation

01:20:18 - The Minnesota Men's Conference Experience

01:28:45 - The Power of Community and Connection

01:34:34 - Embracing Rituals in Modern Life

How to Connect with Phil Horning

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If this conversation resonated with you, particularly themes around grief, attachment, masculinity, addiction, or relational healing, my counseling and coaching services are designed to support individuals navigating these exact experiences.

I work with clients on:

  • Attachment and relational patterns

  • Grief and life transitions

  • Men’s mental health and emotional depth

  • Nervous system regulation and embodiment

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